How many times have you heard the following argument from yourself someone else?
I hate that I can’t watch TV. Other people get to watch TV – I deserve to watch TV too! After this brief conversation, the person typically breaks his/her good habit streak and returns to their vice (TV in this case).
Whenever we decide to better ourselves, we inevitably create a clash between our old self and our new self. Our old self believes that it is being deprived by the new habit, and will often try to sabotage our best efforts.
The following quote may offer a helpful solution.
Essentialists see trade-offs as an inherent part of life, not as an inherently negative part of life. Instead of asking, “What do I have to give up?” they ask, “What do I want to go big on?”
Greg McKeown [Quote adapted from 365 Days with Self-Discipline]
Trade-offs are not bad.
You aren’t losing. You are actually winning something better.
What do you want to go big on?