In seven days, you have a paper due. Determined to finish it early, you walk into the library, find a secluded corner, and start writing. However, it isn’t long before you start to feel uneasy. Something is missing…
One autumn day, you decide to go on a hike. Feeling the brisk breeze against your skin, you observe the different shades of red and orange that litter the ground. You feel a bit lonely, but you try not to let it get to you. As you continue walking, you end up at a peaceful overview. You pause but you don’t feel any peace. In fact, you feel a strong sense of uneasiness. The hike should be rejuvenating, but somehow it isn’t. The silence feels wrong.
You start you car. The radio automatically starts up. It’s some song about a girl who blames her drinking problem on a breakup. You’ve heard it many times before. Slightly annoyed with it this time, you turn off the radio. You should be able to handle driving without the radio you tell yourself as you begin your journey. The first few seconds you can handle the silence, but it isn’t long before you feel the urge to turn the radio back on. Why? The music isn’t any good. The quiet feels unbearable.
Above are three scenarios where a individual must come to terms with their own state of being alone. Why can we not handle being alone?
“Alone, you feel useless, alone you cannot do anything, and even if you do something, no one will know about it, no one will see you doing it, no one will appreciate it. You cannot do anything alone because all your life you have been doing something for others. You feel useless. So remember, if you ever try this solitary madness, drop the idea of utility. Be useless. Only then can you be alone. Because really, utility has been forced on your mind by society. […] I am not saying to be useless. I am saying that this use is not the goal. You have to have in society, to be useful to it, but to remain capable of being useless at any moment. The capacity must be retained otherwise you become a thing and not a person.”
Osho, The Book of Secrets: 112 Meditations to Discover the Mystery Within